Tova’s Substack

She Was His College Affair. Years Later, It’s Their First Date.

A Psychological Erotica (audio version recommended)

Mar 5 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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February 2026

I Don’t Care If You’re Toxic. I Care If I’m Special.

A Prologue To: Watching A Ballerina Have Sex Cured My Heartbreak

Feb 19 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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I Was the Perfect Liberal And I Failed My Friend During Her Abortion

You can be Pro-choice and still be a bad friend.

Feb 12 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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January 2026

Watching A Ballerina Have Sex Cured My Heartbreak

(author's audio version recommended)

Jan 29 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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A Guide to Dirty Talk for Submissive Women

OR... Slow Sex Down Without Taking the Reins

Jan 22 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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Men Who Want Women That Remind Them Of Children

Reflections from a nightlife producer who use to be a 19 year old club rat.

Jan 14 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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The Withdrawal Symptoms of Decentering Men

It's suppose to feel uncomfortable

Jan 7 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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December 2025

Getting Roofied Didn’t Break Me. Realizing Why I Liked It Did.

On Needing to Collapse Before Accepting Care

Dec 30, 2025 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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How to Talk to Someone You Recognize From Online

From a bonafide internet celebrity

Dec 23, 2025 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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Dark Humor Saved my Life

If You Found Me, You’re Not Here by Accident

Dec 17, 2025 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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My Rivalry With the Queen Bee of Jewish New York...

As the girl who runs the 300+ person burlesque shabbat

Dec 11, 2025 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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The Science of Why Situationships Ruin Your Brain

It's not you it's neuroscience.

Dec 2, 2025 • Tova | Disrupting Nicely

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