How to Handle Disagreements with Senior Leaders

How do you deal with a powerful opinionated leader? Let me share the strategy that shifted me from appeasement to collaboration, earning respect along the way. When I first started as a Chief of Staff… ...I found myself at the intersection of heated debates. I was actively “lobbied” by respected people who were paid WAY more than I was. Surely supporting the most senior person who was most passionate would be best? Nope. Appeasing the loudest stakeholders backfired often. So I had to develop a way of dealing with these formidable folks. And I’m going to share 4 simple steps you can take to do it too: 1: Seek a diverse range of alternate perspectives. -> Who else has a stake in this problem area? 2: Understand the impact of any proposed changes -> If we do X how will that impact group Y? 3: Link the impact to the organization or business goals -> If team X has more capacity, but shifts some burden to team Y, how does that impact our overall ability to hit the annual goal? 4. Share your report with the impacted group & include a recommendation  -> I’ve identified these 3 solutions to the main problem, here are the trade-offs & here’s which one I would pick. *** The outcome will not make you immediately popular with any one side.  But the quiet stakeholders will appreciate & remember that you checked in. And here’s the kicker: The loud senior executive will respect you MORE than if you just did as they asked. Your turn! Have you ever had to navigate a tricky situation with a senior executive? Share your strategies below. If you found this useful, go ahead... be cool... re-post. #ExecutivePresence #StrategicCommunication #CareerGrowth

Let me share a story from early in my career, which I often reflect on when facing disagreements at work. It was during a team meeting at my first serious job, and I found myself in disagreement with a proposal put forward by a senior leader. The stakes felt high, and the room was tense. Here’s how I navigated the situation: 1. Seeking Clarification: Instead of jumping in with a “that won’t work,” I paused and said, “I see the direction we’re heading, but could you help me understand how we arrived at this approach?” This opened up the floor for the manager to explain their reasoning, and it gave me valuable insights into their thought process. Sometimes, understanding the ‘why’ can change your ‘no’ to a ‘maybe’ or even a ‘yes.’ 2. Expressing Experience: Once I had a clearer picture, I shared my perspective—not as a direct opposition but as an insight. “From what I’ve seen in previous projects, we might encounter some challenges with this strategy. For instance, last year we tried something similar, and we had to pivot because…” Sharing from my experience, rather than imposing my views, made the conversation more about learning from the past rather than confronting the present. 3. Finding Common Ground: Before diving into my reservations, I acknowledged the merits of the proposal. “I agree that targeting this demographic is a smart move, and I see how this strategy aligns with our goals. However, I’m concerned about the scalability based on last year’s metrics.” This not only showed my support for parts of the plan but also softened the introduction to my concerns, facilitating a more receptive discussion. Why This Matters: That day, I learned that disagreeing doesn’t have to be about conflict. It’s about fostering richer discussions that can lead to better decisions. By seeking to understand before being understood, sharing experiences, and finding common ground, we turn potential conflicts into opportunities for growth. It positions us as thoughtful contributors, valued for helping navigate complex decisions. 🔥 Pro Tip: Keep your tone positive and aim to build, not break. It’s about progressing together towards the best outcomes for everyone involved. 👥 Over to You: Have you found certain approaches more effective? #LeadershipSkills #ProfessionalGrowth #WorkplaceCommunication #Teamwork

Early in my career, I needed to tell a senior executive that his behavior was harming morale. I 𝐀𝐆𝐎𝐍𝐈𝐙𝐄𝐃 over how to have this tough talk without endangering my job. There was no easy way around it. This was going to be 𝐇𝐀𝐑𝐃. Ultimately, we sat down together in a neutral setting. I focused on my desire to see the team thrive. The executive, while surprised, appreciated my honesty. We had an open dialogue, and things improved. It was a growth moment for both of us. 𝐒𝐔𝐂𝐂𝐄𝐒𝐒! 𝘏𝘖𝘞'𝘋 𝘐 𝘋𝘖 𝘐𝘛? Here are three things that have always worked best for me: 1. 𝐁𝐞 𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐞, not the person. Make it about solving problems, not attacking character. 2. Listen first, then speak. 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 before asking to be understood. 3. 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐨𝐧 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. Align on shared goals and good intentions to prevent discord. Courageous conversations require emotional intelligence, empathy, and care. With the right mindset and approach, you can express yourself effectively while minimizing defensiveness in others. 𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒎𝒂𝒅𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒂𝒈𝒆𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒔𝒖𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒇𝒖𝒍? Share one tip below for constructively having necessary but tough talks. I look forward to learning from your experiences!

Navigating difficult conversations…we know the terrain well in supply chain and sustainability —complex stakeholder relationships, competing priorities, and tough tradeoffs that demand honest dialogue. The first quarter of 2025 has been challenging for some clients and colleagues. Behind every successful initiative lies countless challenging conversations.I wanted to share this list that captures what I've learned (often the hard way) about handling challenging discussions: 1. Lead with empathy - acknowledge feelings before diving into issues 2. Stay calm - pause and breathe when tensions rise. Cooler heads prevail. 3. Prepare but remain flexible - rigid scripts rarely survive contact with reality 4. Ask genuine questions - "help me understand your perspective" 5. Give authentic appreciation - recognize effort before suggesting changes 6. Own your emotions - acknowledge feelings without manipulation 7. Respect others' viewpoints - validation doesn't require agreement. You can disagree and still find a happy path. 8. Be specific - vague criticisms like "you always" rarely help 9. Collaborate on solutions - problem-dumping without brainstorming fixes nothing 10. Set clear boundaries - know what you can and cannot commit to 11. Listen actively - not just waiting for your turn to speak. Read this again… 12. Apologize sincerely when needed - take responsibility, not half-measures. Accountability helps build trust. 13. End with concrete next steps - clarity prevents misunderstandings. Playing back throughout tough conversations with key points and actions shows active listening and understanding. 14. Reflect afterward - what worked? what could improve? In my experience leading global teams, the conversations I've handled poorly weren't failures of strategy—they were failures of approach and understanding context. For example, a recent negotiation with a supplier facing severe capacity constraints could have deteriorated into finger-pointing. Instead, by focusing on understanding their challenges first (point #4) and collaborating on creative solutions (point #9), we found a path forward and workable compromise. Staying calm helped too ;) What's your experience? Which of these principles has been most valuable in your leadership journey? Or is there a 15th point you'd add to this list? ___________ 👍🏽 Like this? ♻️ Repost to help someone ✅ Follow me Sheri R. Hinish 🔔 Click my name → Hit the bell → See my posts. #SupplyChain #leadership #sustainability

𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗹𝗶𝗰𝘁 𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸, 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗱𝗶𝗿𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲-𝗮𝗴𝗴𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲, 𝗶𝘀 𝘂𝗻𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲, but it’s inevitable. Yet, many don't know how to handle it effectively. Once I got curious about what causes conflict, I realized most are rooted on 3 sources: 𝟭. 𝗜𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗔𝘀𝘆𝗺𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗿𝘆: Conflict often happens when parties lack access to the same data. Their decisions clash because they’re not working with the same information. At Google Home, the e-commerce team and I didn't see eye to eye on a new service launch strategy. The economics impacted their channel performance, but after I shared the roadmap of future services that would offset the challenges, we aligned. With both teams accessing the same "data set", the conflict dissolved.     𝟮. 𝗣𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗼𝗽𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗗𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀: Sometimes, everyone has the same facts but different priorities. One side might focus on quality vs. speed. Having a common set of principles or philosophies helps drive alignment.     While leading the transition from G Suite to Google Workspace, we restructured features across 20+ apps. Each app team had different approaches, making alignment difficult. But once we agreed on principles—like target customers profiles per subscription tier—decision-making became much easier.     𝟯. 𝗘𝗴𝗼: Sometimes it's not about data or principles— it's personal. A party may feel slighted or passed over, leading them to derail plans (consciously or unconsciously). In such cases, escalation is often the best solution.     At Adobe, I worked to align product leaders on a strategy, but some personal grievances and turf wars slowed progress. Even with shared data and principles, the conflict persisted. Escalating to senior management helped resolve the impasse and get everyone on board. 𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗮 𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗼𝗱𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗼𝗹𝘃𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗹𝗶𝗰𝘁: 𝟭. 𝗦𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱: Identify the root cause: data gap, philosophical difference, or ego? Approach with empathy, curiosity, and zero judgment. 𝟮. 𝗔𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘀: Share all relevant info. Ensure both sides work from the same set of truths. 𝟯. 𝗔𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝗣𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘀: Once aligned on facts, agree on guiding principles. Debate principles, not the issue itself. 𝟰. 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽 𝗦𝗼𝗹𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀: Collaborate on options, weighing pros and cons together. 𝟱. 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗗𝗼𝗰𝘂𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁: Choose a solution, document it, and share with all involved. Include names and dates—this adds accountability and prevents reopening the issue. 𝟲. 𝗘𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗶𝗳 𝗡𝗲𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗿𝘆: If all else fails, it's likely ego-driven and escalation might be necessary—and that’s okay when done responsibly. Next time conflict arises, don’t rush to fix it or let frustration take over. Step back, identify the cause, and handle it methodically. #leadership #conflict

One minute, I was working. The next, my manager was yelling at me in front of the entire team. I had two choices: 1️⃣ Fire back. Defend myself. Make things worse. 2️⃣ De-escalate and work on a solution. Here’s the four-part approach that turned an explosive moment into a productive conversation: STEP 1 - Move the conversation Instead of reacting, I said: 💬 "Sounds like we need to talk. Can we do it in private?" We stepped into an empty room — away from the crowd and emotions. STEP 2 - Set a boundary I looked him in the eye and said: 💬 "I’m happy to talk about any concerns. But please don’t yell — it makes it hard for me to listen and respond." He took a deep breath. “That’s fair." STEP 3 - Find the real issue At first, he was fixated on a small mistake. But I had a feeling there was more. So I asked: 💬 “Is this really about the X?" He hesitated, then said: “Honestly, it’s not. I just need more from the team right now.” STEP 4 - Prevent it from happening again Before we ended, I said: 💬“Next time, can we talk about concerns in private first?” He agreed. And he never yelled at me again. The Lesson? 🚫 Don’t fight emotion with emotion. 🚫 Don’t assume the first issue is the real issue. ✅ Control what you can: your response, your boundaries, and how you navigate conflict. P.S. That same manager gave me a glowing recommendation for my next promotion.

Career lies I used to believe: “Don’t question authority.” “Put your head down & work.” “Stay in your lane.” “Let your work speak for itself.” Earlier in my career, I remember sitting in a meeting with senior leaders, nodding along as they discussed a strategy I didn’t fully agree with. I felt the weight of my upbringing — a culture where respect meant silence and deferring to authority. When I left the meeting, my manager pulled me aside and said, “You need to push back more. It’s a part of your job.” I was confused. To me, pushing back felt disrespectful. But the more I observed, the more I noticed something: the people who spoke up — who shared their perspectives and questioned the status quo — earned respect. They weren’t seen as troublemakers, but as thought partners who helped refine ideas. I realized that it wasn’t about being confrontational; it was about engaging with purpose, offering alternatives, and pushing the conversation forward. 💡 Silence = invisibility. 💡 Pushback ≠ disrespect. It’s valuable. Here are some ways I’ve learned to voice my perspective in a way that feels true to my communication style: ➕ Reframe pushback as partnership – Saying “I don’t agree” shuts the door. Saying “I see your point, and I’d add…” keeps you in the conversation. ➕ Lean into your curiosity – Asking “What would happen if we tried X instead?” makes you sound like a thinker and creative problem-solver. ➕ Offer solutions, not just opinions – Frame your perspective as a fix, not a fight. ➕ Acknowledge, THEN challenge – Start with “That’s a great point,” then introduce your perspective. People listen when they feel heard. ➕ Align with team goals – “We both want the same outcome, and this might help us get there faster.” Have you experienced this too? What else would you add?

WHEN TEMPERS FLARE, YOU'RE LOCKED IN A STALEMATE, OR A MULTI MILLION DOLLAR DEAL IS ON THE LINE, EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO TURNING IT AROUND. The right communication framework fosters understanding, strengthens relationships, and drives powerful results within your team. Both personally and professionally, effective communication is key to successful teamwork, conflict resolution, and collaboration. From construction to finance, from fashion to family offices, my high performance clients master the skills to navigate the toughest conversations and transform them into their biggest breakthroughs. And here’s how you can do it too: 1. FRAME THE POSITIVE INTENTION: Start with shared goals. Establish a shared purpose to align your conversation positively and maintain the focus on optimal outcomes. ➡️”We both want [a positive, uplifting relationship].” “This is about us being [happier, more productive].” A positive start encourages cooperation and a safe space for communication. 2. DESCRIBE THE OBSERVABLE: Present facts without emotional interpretation. Focus on specific events or behaviors rather than feelings. ➡️ “When [specific event] happened, I saw [specific observation].” Stick to observable facts and avoid personal interpretations to keep the conversation neutral. 3. SHARE THE FEELING: Express your emotions without blame. Own your feelings without blaming others, and invite the other person to share theirs. ➡️“We both feel [emotion].” “I feel [emotion] about [situation].” Take ownership of your feelings. Express them without pointing fingers and encourage others to do the same. 4. REQUEST THEIR PERSPECTIVE: Invite input and collaboration. Ask for the other person’s perspective to gain insight into their viewpoint. ➡️“How did you see that?” “What did you observe?” Listen actively and be open to hearing the other person’s thoughts, fostering mutual understanding. 5. MAKE THE ASK WITH BENEFIT EXTENSIONS Propose mutually beneficial solutions: Offer choices that meet both parties' needs. ➡️ “If [action] occurs, we would feel [emotion] and [emotion].” “Here are two options that work for me…” Present two acceptable options to empower the other person to contribute to the solution. 6. WORK TOGETHER TO BUILD A CONSENSUS Collaborate on finding the best solution: Work together to determine the best course of action and express appreciation when a decision is made. ➡️ “I appreciate the thought you’ve put into this. I’m glad we agreed on [decision].” By applying my effective communication framework, you foster open, respectful communication that builds trust, enhances collaboration, and contributes to team success. And the great news is that you can use this both personally and professionally! I’m curious… ~When was a time that you needed this framework in your life? #future #communication #success

I don't enjoy conflict. I've worked with people who seem to thrive on it. Everything is a confrontation. Yet, they seem to move the ball down the field. While I don't enjoy conflict, it's inevitable. The topic of conflict came up in a recent client consulting session. The team consisted of five senior execs from various backgrounds and companies. They are now working at an early stage startup starting to generate revenue and deal with scale. The group dynamics during the pre-revenue stage involved tense meetings and work sessions. Conflict was the norm. Now that the company is starting to scale and urgency is an underlying theme, the conflict they relished early on is now killing them. Every decision takes hours or days vs. the minutes it should. We drilled into the reasons for this, and it came down to expectations and alignment. Several leaders viewed the ultimate goals and metrics differently than others. Much of this was due to role, scope and timing. The conflict arose when one leader looked at everything from an 18 to 24 month timeframe vs. the impact on the here and now. Sacrifices must be made for long-term gain. Other leaders realized these sacrifices jeopardized their ability to hit targets in the short-term and in some cases, risk customer satisfaction or stiffer penalties by "cutting corners" (their perception of the decisions being made.). We had the luxury of observing the dialogue with no horse in the race. After asking each leader to clarify their viewpoint, we then asked them to approach the discussion differently. Instead of saying "That won't work because...," they started with "I think I understand your position. Here are the issues we'd need to consider and the impact on the business. Mind if we walk through them? I'd love your thoughts on the best way to proceed." It was important that these issues were discussed with objective data, cost/benefit/risk analysis, and options for different paths forward, vs. simply taking the position that the other path won't work. This approach turned conflict into discussion and both parties felt like their experience and opinions were valuable, and heard. After hearing each other out, they were able to compromise in several areas to reach an agreeable path forward. Both made sacrifices, but the result allowed them to move ahead. This is not always the case, but it works if both parties can take a deep breath and rethink their approach. Conflict turned into constructive conversation.