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I’m Not Clapping for That
A practical response to the applause lines of the State of the Union.
Feb 26
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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I Wish I Didn’t Care This Much
Winter makes it louder. Fatherhood makes it harder.
Feb 19
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Lou, The Sun Seeker
a remembrance
Feb 7
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Nothing was wrong. I still felt off after becoming a dad.
On anger, routine, and what happens after the adrenaline fades
Feb 5
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Love Is the Best and Worst Thing
A dad's take on grief, joy, and refusing to go numb
Jan 28
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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The Cost of Caring Is Basically Nothing
Notes on urgency, care, and what fatherhood is teaching me
Jan 22
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Hogarth, Our Iron Giant
a remembrance
Jan 7
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Go to the Cottage
What Heated Rivalry Reveals About Choosing a Life That Fits
Jan 1
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Getting Lost Used to Feel Good
A case for curiosity in a measured world
Dec 18, 2025
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Build-a-Martyr Workshop, Sponsored by Turning Point USA
Now complete with a grifter mom.
Dec 11, 2025
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Refining, Not Reinventing
We have been driving through Northern California this week.
Dec 4, 2025
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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We’re All Muppets at the Holiday Table
Why assigning everyone a Muppet might be your new favorite coping skill
Nov 27, 2025
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Rewriting Traditions for a New Kind of Family
What we inherit, what we release, and what we choose to build next.
Nov 20, 2025
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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Running on Empty
What exhaustion is costing us in our classrooms, homes, and ability to pay attention.
Nov 13, 2025
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Matt Fitzpatrick
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I’m a gay dad and former teacher writing about the systems we’re stuck in—and how we raise kids who can break them. If you’re rethinking school, parenting, or your own story, this is your place.
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