You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah

2023
★★★★ Liked

Watched 29 Dec 2023

Murder Mystery 2 (Jeremy Garelick) / You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah (Sammi Cohen) / Leo (Robert Marianetti / Robert Smigel / David Wachtenheim)

In the tradition of John Ford’s 1939, Vincente Minnelli’s 1958, and Zack Snyder’s 2021, Adam Sandler released three Happy Madison productions on Netflix in 2023. Although not the director of these films, each manifests his personality. This makes him the era’s leading actor-as-auteur along with Eddie Murphy. As a Jewish comedian, Sandler’s ethnically specific persona is semiotics. He exposes the bourgeois WASP perspective that Hollywood and the media establish as Reality. Sandler’s vulgarity gets real with audiences.

Like the sphinx riddle, Sandler’s trio of films in 2023 represent the maturation of a human being.

In the animated Leo, a tuatara lizard voiced by Sandler imparts essential life lessons to 5th graders. During weekend shifts taking turns being responsible for Leo’s care, they each share Leo’s secret ability to talk and receive his wisdom gained observing generations of 5th graders in their natural habitat. The children’s relationship with the reptilian Other breaks down barriers of shame. The kids express this liberation in musical numbers that really do sound like they were written by children. That makes it the best animated movie since Claude Barras/Celine Sciamma’s 2017 My Life as a Zucchini.

Preparations for the Jewish coming-of-age ritual—Long Island-style—in You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah spin out-of-left field farce around the sexual axis of self-consciousness that comes with young adulthood. The resulting jealousies put a wedge between best friends (played by Sunny Sandler and Samantha Lorraine). They make public spectacle out of romantic fickleness and never-before-seen-in-a-movie bodily embarrassments (proving girls can be as silly and gross as boys). Because Sunny inherits her father’s comic chops and Lorraine commands the screen, the resolution of these impediments to mature friendship between two new Movie Stars elicits unexpected emotion—the kind once shared communally in a movie theater but now on social media.

In Murder Mystery 2, Sandler and Jennifer Anniston play a married couple who turn their amateur sleuthing in the first film into a profession as private detectives. The institution of marriage dissolves all the shame, self-consciousness, and embarrassments between two people. As such, the vulnerability that marriage (and screwball mixology) necessitates also engenders a sense of danger. These psycho-spiritual ingredients make for a heady action-comedy cocktail. (This film’s instigating murder occurs at a wedding.) The surprisingly precise action staging and editing in Parisian car-chase and Eiffel Tower showdown set-pieces hilariously depend on the fidelity of the espoused sleuths. To solve the mystery, Sandler & co. invites viewers to extend that trust politically or, more precisely, patriotically. That evidences Sandler’s always-unifying (a wedded) impulse.

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